This is a situation that most of us have encountered in our social or professional life.
This is a situation that most of us have encountered in our social or professional life.
When a friend or colleague makes a joke at our expense or throws an insult in the form of a joke, we often don’t know how to respond.
If we pretend not to be offended, it might encourage more such comments. But if we react, there is a high probability that we will find ourselves in an unpleasant situation or in a conflict with the interlocutor.
According to Sara Jane Ho, a Harvard-educated behavioral expert, anyone in such a situation can respond politely and superiorly by simply asking one question.
“If a friend says something mean to me, I usually look at it and say, ‘Are you okay?'” Ho says. This question, she says, shows that she didn’t take the comment personally, but that she “definitely didn’t like it.”
However, according to experts, besides words, it is also important to consider the tone. Don’t be abrupt or dry, but friendly. “I don’t want to be offensive either. I say it with interest and that usually puts the other person on the spot,” she explains.
Regardless of who made the negative comment, don’t let this event control your mood. “The greatest power is to show the other person that they have no power over you,” says Ho.
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Source: newstars.edu.vn